I'm Not Listening to "you" Anymore!

There's nothing better than living in Passion and on Purpose! I spoke this weekend in New York for Mt. Zion Women's Summit. Thank you for those who covered me in prayer. I ministered "A Chance Of A Lifetime". My Dad said always speak to a persons mind, not their feet, because it is the mind that changes behavior! It was about The Promise, The Process and The Performance. A young lady got saved and hearing the other testimonies lets me know I'm on the right path in GOD. However, they go IN in NYC lol so I sweated my good flat press out - hot mess!! Lol. I cried in the service in awe of GOD carrying me through process to the promise of becoming the hope of HIS calling, watching the prophetic word of my Pastor (my Bishop, my Dad), prayers of my parents and church move into performance. I have felt awful about myself or brought to floods tears because I allowed the projection or perception of others about my career path to question "do I follow purpose or do I chase money?"

But I have found that sometimes following the will of GOD means neglecting the thoughts of people. Sometimes conventional choices bore you because GOD created you for an unconventional call. Sometimes you can't follow the common path because you're created to blaze an uncommon trail. Often times creative people, visionaries and those who dream in color are misunderstood and even overly criticized. It is quietly spoken that they are undisciplined, not focused or even given the title of laziness. Now while some people do possess those attributes that isn't a true assessment for a purpose driven life. The latter person simply rejects the rigidity of being status quo because they know they weren't created to go with the flow but rather set it. I'm amazed at GOD and HIS grace to see the prophetic word of GOD come to pass! And it's just the beginning. GOD is crazy faithful! I don't care how old you are or what your dream is, if GOD is in it, HE will perform it, take 1 step and watch HIM work. Provision, blessing and favor is all found in the step. Each step brings positions you for a greater door and often times brings you full circle in GOD. Small steps produce BIG changes. So I want to encourage you today that no matter how old you are, no matter who has tried to copy you or your vision, no matter who tells you can't do it or won't succeed, no matter how many times you failed before....GOD is with you! And if GOD is with you, stop worrying about what HE has already worked out! Choose today to ignore the negative voices and live fully in what I call your authentic capacity...we're all waiting for you!

I'll post pictures from my trip soon. I'm praying for you. I'm rooting for you. I love you fiercely, GOD loves you relentlessly and y'all already know the rest...GOD is Crazy Faithful!!!

His Joy,

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Who do you think you are?

"For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he..." (Proverbs 23:7)

Question: WHO do you think you are? I'm asking because WHO you think you are determines WHAT you do! Often times we live outside the realm of our birthright and beneath the distinction of it's truth. We accept a lifestyle, relationships, jobs, circumstances, form paradigms, hold our hope and even it's evidence, faith, all to a standard beneath our birthright. We allow ourselves to be treated less than the brilliance of our light demands. Many of us even dim our light in fear of rejection. Listen, I always say the light of who we are should shine bright at all times. If anyone doesn't like that, there are 2 options, 1) put on some sunglasses OR 2) keep standing in the "shade" LOL. In the infamous and immortal words of dear Sweet Brown, "ain't nobody got time for that!"

We teach people how to treat us based upon how we treat ourselves. We cannot demand love, truth or respect if we don't 1st gift ourselves with it. It is impossible to give away that which you do not already possess yourself. There is a difference being full of yourself and being full on yourself. Being full on yourself is conceit but being full of yourself is confidence. David said, "my cup runneth over". The only way our cup can run over, is they must be continually full. It is imperative to remain in a state of being full not complacent. You have to do whatever it takes to stay full. When you are low it is imperative to fill up on GOD's hope for your life. Are you FULLY living in the space of you?

When you don't fully know who you are you become what others project you to be. Is that relationship, that career, that ambition, that dream, that desire really in alignment with GOD? Are you dating the potential rather than reality? Are you accepting the lies of perception or really living in the fullness of truth? Have you given up on yourself, on that hope, that dream? Are you in sync with the rhythm of GOD's heartbeat? Are you FULLY living in the space of you?

We teach people how to treat us, not by how well we treat others, but it's determined on how well we treat ourselves. Ladies, if a guy knows that you are willing to lower your standard to be with him, he will never raise his to fully be with you. Men, if you don't fully respect yourself, why are you upset when a lady doesn't have respect for you? If we don't demand respect on our jobs based on our presence, the excellency and truth of our work and never speak up in an intelligent manner when we know we deserve better, we will never get it. It is not our job to convince anyone of our light. Our 1 job we have in our existence is to BE light, this is why you were created. So my question is do you know WHO you are? Because WHO you are determines WHAT you do. And you were created to be light, live in the awesome realm of your birthright and overflow on to others. Are you FULLY living in the space of you?

I love you relentlessly, GOD loves you fiercely, and say it with me...GOD is crazy faithful!

His Joy,

Christian Joy

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Got Dreams?

Ok so I've been in the bed sick for a few days (no worries I'm not dying...at least I don't think so...I digress) so I've been able to watch my favorite morning show GMA in its entirety! Ok, maybe I'm the only one happy about that LOL. Again...I digress. Anyway I saw this beautiful story on GMA this morning. I had already decided last night to blog today, as it's been way too long since my last post. I must admit I changed my topic instantly after I saw the story of Ryan and Amanda. Ryan Leaks, a motivational speaker from Dallas, TX, proposed AND married Amanda Roman in ONE DAY! This wasn't a result of any of the normal impulsive reasoning such as, "she was pregnant" or "they were drunk" or "in Vegas" or even because they decided to "go to the justice of the peace." This was not spontaneous, although it would seem to be so, it was methodically planned out and no detail was untouced!

Ryan overheard his then girlfriend, Amanda Roman, say to her friend how cool it would be to become engaged and married on the same day. She didn't think of all of the intricacies that her "dream day" would entail so she sort of dismissed it from there. Ryan took one year to plan every inch of her dream day and used her wedding board where she had "re-pinned" over 220 photos on pinterest as his guide. C'mon now...you really didn't think a guy pulled this off by himself, did you? LOL! On June 7, 2013, 5 years to the day that they met, Ryan proposed AND gave Amanda the wedding of her dreams and married her on the same day!

This got my wheels to spinning! How often do we say things in passing conversation and don't realize that GOD is listening? It amazed me that she spoke her dream and unbeknownst to her as she went about her daily life, filled with ups and downs, she was being set up to live out what she had already spoken. GOD doesn't need to pay attention to our various social media outlets, he reads something greater, our hearts! It is His pleasure to give us the desires of our heart in accordance with His will. The bible says that He will not withhold any good thing from us. GOD pays attention to our prayers, every tear that drops, all of the emotions we feel and the unspoken words in our spirit. Just like He did with Esther, he prepares us for specific moments in time that are both for His glory and to bless you! Don't think that GOD isn't working just because you don't see or feel any changes in your daily life. You planted the seed and just know that powerful things are taking place underground, in darkness and out of sight.

If Ryan took a year to plan ONE day, and not just any day, Amanda's dream day, and she not be the wiser...don't count GOD out! He is working while you're waiting. And, not just working on anything ordinary, no He's working on something AMAZING! P:31 Ladies, do NOT settle in life or in love. You deserve an amazing love story too! Stop settling for the rest and wait on GOD's best. And no matter what gender you are, trust that things are moving into place for you to live out your dreams. GOD isn't just the promise keeper, He's the promise maker! One day can change your entire life.

His Joy,

Christian Joy

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Bruno Mars and Lips :)

I remember growing up being teased about different aspects of my appearance. Many children who are constantly picked on either become a bully themselves later in life or they retreat within themselves and develop a complex. I did the latter. One of the the features up for regular discussion were my lips. Now I must say that my lips probably have always been the size they are now, which means I had "big lips" as a child indeed LOL. I used to try to somewhat hold them in so they wouldn't appear as large. But that behavior stopped when I realized, that was just plain stupid LOL. I remember someone telling me as a teenager, "girl you sure grew into those lips." Ummm....ok? I'm tickled even now writing this because I guess that was supposed to be a compliment. I digress.

What I did realize however, were that my lips were beautiful and I learned to love them because they were mine! Women pay big money to have the lips that I have, naturally. Other women use lip liners and many other cosmetic tricks to create the illusion of "full lips." And wouldn't you know....the same guys that relentlessly teased me growing up....now fiercely admired these BIG LIPS! LOL. I could go on and on about a few of my other traits, some I grew to love and like many women, others are still a work in progress. But I can tell you this, I love my lips, big, juicy and all! :) Point is, we all have certain parts of ourselves that we've disliked but eventually learned to love. We've all grown into MANY parts of ourselves LOL, physically, spiritually, socially, intellectually, emotionally, etc. What aspects have you learned to appreciate about yourself? Instead of focusing on the negative, look into the mirror then make a list and accentuate the positive. Change what you can and love the rest! In the words of Bruno Mars...."girl, you're amazing, just the way you are" - I love that song :)

 

Lips....Lips....And More...Lips! ;)

 

I've learn to protect and care for my lips. I always say they're too big to be cracked and ashy LOL. So I'm going to give you my steps of how I take care of my lips. Once you do this you'll have soft, sweet and smooth lips. You'll love yourself for it and your lips will thank you for it! I love this homemade Vaseline Sugar lip scrub, it leaves my lips feeling amazing. You probably have all of these items at home, so it also fits right into your budget! The Vaseline coats and moisturizes your lips, while the sugar exfoliates them and leaves sweet :)

 Here's what you'll need: Vaseline. Sugar. Toothbrush or Spoolie.

Step 1: Rub a nice amount of the Vaseline into your lips - enough to fully coat and then some

Step 2: Use your clean toothbrush or spoolie to dip and press into the Vaseline just to coat it a little

Step 3: Then dip the toothbrush or spoolie into the Sugar (just plain granulated white sugar)

Step 4: Gently rub the toothbrush in small circles all around your lips and your natural lip line

Step 5: After you've exfoliated (gently), use a moist wipe, such as a baby wipe, or a damp towel will work as well. Gently wipe off all of the sugar scrub from your lips.

Step 6: Apply your favorite lip balm or moisturizer of choice

Now....if you do not have an extra toothbrush or make up spoolie around the house, no worries, use your ring finger instead. In beauty school, I learned that your ring finger applies the least amount of pressure (or at least that's what they said lol) so whenever you use eye cream or are applying this scrub, be mindful to use your ring finger. And, If you do not have any Vaseline, Olive Oil will serve as a great substitute for the scrub.

There is one last step that I've done for as long as I can remember. My sister and daughter do this every night as well. 

Step 7: Before we go to bed, we always apply a generous amount of Vaseline (use your balm of choice) to our lips. This helps to keep them soft throughout the night and your lips feel great in the morning. Well...only if you managed to keep it on while you slept LOL.

If you try it, let me know if you love it just as much as I do!

Christian Joy

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DIY - Brown Sugar Vanilla Coffee Scrub

I absolutely love body scrubs and this particular one is one of my favorites. I used this recipe at my last Beauty Rocks! event and it was an absolute hit. Both the coffee and the sugar have amazing exfoliation properties and antioxidants. The caffeine in the ground coffee is known to be a natural way to reduce the appearance of cellulite and varicose veins. This body scrub is economical, smells divine and leaves your skin super smooth and soft! Because there is cinnamon in this I would not advise you using this on your face. However, you can also use this on concentrated areas like your hands, elbows, knees and feet. I love to use this all over whenever my body needs this decadent treat! Be sure to apply to wet or damp skin. It's best to use this scrub in the shower if you're using it as a full body exfoliator. When you get out of the shower instead of immediately drying off with a towel; use the left over oil on your wet skin and allow it air dry to completely seal in the moisture. I suggest using a full body scrub once a week all over to help keep your skin exfoliated. You can use this on your hands and feet daily though. Your skin will thank you and you will smell so yummy :)

Here's what you'll need: 

• 1 cup - Brown Sugar
• 1 cup - Ground Coffee (some use hazelnut for added aroma but regular is fine)
• 1/2 cup - White Sugar
• 1 cup - Olive Oil (or sweet almond, jojoba, coconut, etc)
• 2 tablespoons - Vanilla Extract
• 1 tablespoon - Cinnamon
• 1 teaspoon - Nutmeg  

 

  

Step 1: Mix all of the dry ingredients together in a bowl or container. If you're using the container you plan to store it in, be sure it is airtight.

Step 2: Pour in Olive Oil and Vanilla Extract. Make sure you stir as you go.

Step 3: Congrats!!! Your scrub is all ready. Be sure to rinse very well after you use.

Once you make this and try it, let me know if you love this body scrub as much as I do.

Christian Joy

I Am Not My Hair!

India.Arie has a song entitled "I Am Not My Hair", the chorus says "I am not my hair, I am not this skin, I am not your expectation...no, I am not my hair, I am not this skin, I am the soul that lives within."

How many of us describe who we are or our worth by the obvious? By the obvious I mean our relational status, career, family, physical appearance, gifts, talent, associates, financial status, etc. But what happens when one or all of those things are removed or changed at the same time? I will tell you what happens because I have experienced that immobilizing space. In this transitional space, often excruciating in nature, you realize that what you do or what you have does not define you...WHO you are does! But the question is do you really know who you are if you, yourself have always defined who you are by the obvious? When you place your worth in the obvious you miss the true essence of your existence. You are both Wonderfully Divine and Beautifully Human. We are a trichotomy - Body, Soul and Spirit. We are is 2/3 spiritual so this should not only be our dominate nature but it is the true essence of who we are. We follow traps set by the media and society that celebrates our humanity and often demonizes our divinity.

What we call "intuition", I often call the voice of GOD within us. Our intuition or sixth sense gives us subtle nudges of direction daily but if we aren't aware or tuned into we will ignore the GOD not only of us, but IN us. We need to make sure that we our aligned within our trichotomy and practice living within the balance of all three. Each serves a purpose and one isn't to be confused with the other. It's time to roll up our sleeves and do the spiritual work on our inner core. When you believe who you are is what you do then you are denying the very part of you that make you truly...YOU!

You don't have a soul you, ARE a soul. You don't have a spirit, you ARE a spirit. For believers, the body itself is just like Earth to us, a temporary home just like the beautiful song by Carrie Underwood declares. I am all about presentation so beautifying our bodies and taking care of them is important but that should never take precedence over your inner beauty. Real beauty begins within and then radiates out. When my world crashed I actually mourned who I was, because in my mind my worth was tied to what I did. It took me being stripped down to NOTHING and I do mean NOTHING to realize I am not my hair, I am not my skin, I am not your expectation....I am the soul that lives within!

His Joy,

Christian Joy

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